"You can't pour from an empty cup." – Unknown
Happy Spring! 🌷💐
We are officially in spring! Well, apparently we are but all I see when I look
out the window is an overcast sky threatening rain. 🤷♀️
What others "spring season" is my "I'm freezing! Now I'm
sweating. Wait! Now I'm freezing again!" season! 😂. And not only is
it spring but we're also 3 months into the year! 😱 How?! What?!
That went quick! I swear it was January just yesterday?! 🤔 So since we're 3
months in, I thought it was time that we did a check in on ourselves! The
hustle of Christmas and the New Year is behind us, and summer is gradually
approaching so let's take some much needed time to and for ourselves! 💜
It's important that we take time to look after ourselves and to check in on how
we're feeling and what we're doing because, I don't know about you, but I can
easily get stuck in my progress of the goals I'm trying to work towards or want
to achieve that I miss out with what I'm actually doing or could be doing to
achieve them. 😂
We can get so caught up in our daily lives and short-term plans that it's easy
to forget the resolutions, wishes, and goals that we made for ourselves. Me
personally? I've been so preoccupied with continuing to get through the day
with my OCD as well as writing for this blog, and trying to keep going
generally that I've honestly not been focusing on other goals I wanted to work
on. I wanted to learn a new skill and I haven't started. I also wanted to start
writing a book but all I've done is continue to come up with different things
for it but not actually sit down and start working on it. I feel upset that I
haven't actually started it and you know what? That's okay! It's okay to fall
behind on things we wanted to do, the new habits or routines we wanted to
enforce! We're human, other things come up in life, with ourselves, friends,
family, things get pushed aside and we shouldn't beat ourselves up about that.
It's not going to change anything! All it's going to do is make us feel worse
about not doing what we initially wanted and probably make us even more
unlikely to do it because of the shame or guilt we may feel. No! It's okay for
things to change, it's okay that things didn't go the way we wanted, planned,
or hoped for, it's also okay if you realise that what you thought you wanted isn't
something you want anymore! It's all okay! Go easy on yourself! Check in with
yourself with what you want, how you're feeling, and what you want to do and
can do. You have time. You're going to be okay. 💜
So I recently took some time off to rest and to look after myself and during
that time I was catching myself saying little sayings, quotes, and reminders
throughout the day and I thought I'd note them down and share them for myself
and for anyone else who may need them. It's easy to get caught up in our every
day lives and miss out on checking in on ourselves and how we're actually
doing, and that's okay, that's life, it happens! We just need to make a little
reminder to take some time to ourselves, to breathe and get our bearings with
everything around and within us. I was also thinking that new-born babies
receive a 3 month check up after being born, why not us now, 3 months into the
year? 🤷♀️😂
(Okay, we've only got a week left until April but hey! It's still technically within
the 3 month period! 😂)
Here are my,
Check In Reminders:
1) It's okay if it's taking
longer than you wanted.
There are so many times that we put ourselves down and wallow in the fact and
the negative energy that things aren't going the way we wanted. Whether it's a
habit you're trying to make, or a habit you're trying to break, or motivation
to study or workout or to work on that project or side business you've been
meaning to, or even if you're in recovery or healing and it's not going the way
you want. It's easy to get stuck in that cycle of nothing feeling or going
right and you either just can't understand why or you start getting
pulled down by feeling so disheartened. But guess what? You're not alone, we
all have bouts of going through this! (Yes, even when those bouts feel
never-ending!) But remember to just keep putting one foot in front of the other
and breathe. Try and find that little light (and no, it's not the oncoming
train! I see you sitting there thinking that! 👀), try and find
that opening to try something new to get yourself going again, or to that stop
sign so you can rest and re-assess what you're doing, what's working for you,
and what's not. Hang in there, it's okay that it's not going the way you want,
keep going!
2) You deserve to be shown
up for.
You don't deserve to be treated (by yourself or others) like you don't matter
or that you're not important because you do matter, you are
important! If someone can't be bothered to show up for you, it's their loss. I
know that it's not easy but you are worth the effort! And I'm sorry if you've
ever felt like you weren't enough because you and they are wrong, you are
enough. 💜
3) You deserve to be
treated like you matter (because you do!).
You're important. You're worthy. You're amazing. Don't let yourself or how
others treat you, or not treat you, make you feel like you're not good enough
or that you're not worth it because you are. It can really hurt when something
or someone doesn't go the way we plan and can cause us to second guess
ourselves, like there's something wrong with us but there isn't! When things
don't always go the way we had hoped, that doesn't mean something else won't
come along and go the we want or to be better than we thought. Treat and give
yourself the love that you know, deep down, that you deserve. 💜
4) Sometimes you need to
take a step back to be able to keep moving.
You can push and push all you want but sometimes the best way to push forward
is to step back. Rest, go easy on yourself, and do what you can in that moment.
Having a relapse or not being able to do something like you originally wanted
or thought you'd be able to do doesn't make you a failure or that something (or
everything) has gone wrong, some days are just off like that, it's normal,
you're human! Take a step back, do what you can how you can, and try it
again another time.
5) Give yourself a break.
You're trying, even when you're resting, you're trying so please go easy on
yourself and give yourself a break! Like I'm always saying, the more you have a
go at yourself and berate yourself, the more difficult it make things for you
and you don't need that! You wouldn't encourage a loved one or, if you were a
teacher, a student, or even a stranger to be hard on themselves, you'd
encourage them to do the opposite, to go easy on themselves, to take a break if
and when it's needed, and to give themselves support, love, and encouragement,
not to make themselves feel bad. We all need a push every now and again but you
can help motivate someone (including yourself!) without making them feel bad or
by giving them a hard time. So give yourself a break - you're going to be okay.
💜
6) Love.
Love, cherish, and appreciate those around you, who care for you and that you
care for in return (and that includes yourself!). It's easy to go about our
daily lives accepting that they're there and a part of it so it's easy to
forget how much you love them and them for you, and also how amazing and
beautiful it is to have love. It's easy to take for granted the time that we
have with our loved ones. There is no guarantee on how much time we have with
one another so make sure you're showing the ones you love that you love them.
Even just taking a minute to mentally appreciate them and feel the love you
have for them! Not only are you spreading the love but it's also good for your
mental health to remind yourself of those lighter moments in life and the
people that matter. Love others and love yourself. 💜
7) Don't let or allow
yourself to be treated as second best.
You're a prize. You're number one. Don't forget that about yourself and don't
allow yourself to be treated as anything else, by yourself or others! Things
don't always work out the way we want them too, relationships, jobs, health, life
but don't allow a bad time or experience to change how you think about
yourself, you're worth so much more than you think in your dark times or when
others don't see or treat you the way you deserve, you're never second best.
8) You can't control
everything.
The classic phrase for those who suffer from OCD, anxiety or any other anxiety
disorder! But it's true and it's something that I'm continuously trying to
teach myself and accept! You can try with everything in you, with all your
might but you still can't control everything and that's okay. It's okay to
admit that, it's okay to accept that, it's a universal truth - you can't control
everything!
It's time to check in! Whether it's for 5 minutes, half an hour, a day, or
however long you can, you need to make sure you're taking time to look after
yourself and to make sure that you're okay. It's not always easy (an
understatement!) but trying so, even just a little, is amazing and can help you
to not always feel like, "Hey Universe, Did You Forget About Me?"
Thank you for reading! 💜
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